Christian Parents Blamed for Joshua (Leelah) Alcorn's Suicide
A society that spits in the face of grieving parents is very ill.
The Alcorn family have just had their hearts ripped from their chests. Now, rather than receiving condolences, they are suffering a barrage of venom that makes the Westboro Baptist Church look like a Sunday potluck.
If we are going to fix society, we have to find real answers that make a difference in lives and stop believing the lies. Parental love can be heartbreaking. Lives matter. Biology matters. Hormones impact our feelings. Black box warnings mean what they say.
The real problem was not that he wasn't accepted by his parents--as the hatemongers say. By all accounts he was loved, and they sought help for him. CNN.com:
"We don't support that, religiously," Alcorn's mother told CNN on Wednesday, her voice breaking. "But we told him that we loved him unconditionally. We loved him no matter what. I loved my son. People need to know that I loved him. He was a good kid, a good boy."
Parenting is hard. It hurts. The hardest part is doing what you believe is right for your child, even if it means that he or she claims to hate you for it. Joshua Alcorn was not the first to be at odds with his parents. Young and confused, he gave up on his life before his parents did.
Sometimes parenting is holding onto your child with everything inside you. It's screaming "I love you," only to have your words and deeds fall on a heart not yet mature enough to understand what love truly means.
Love, especially parental love, is not unconditional acceptance of behavior. It is unconditional love and acceptance of a person as a whole--who they are--and who they have the potential to become.
It is holding on so tight that even death can't pry your fingers off.