Saving the Males from the NY Times
"Certain differences between men and women make absolute equality not only implausible, but undesirable."
Members of the mainstream media not only cherish alternative lifestyles; they also wish to purge everything from our culture that prevents their realization. This was evident on Father's Day when the New York Times Magazine commemorated the holiday by placing the misandric query, "Will Dad Ever Do His Share?," on its cover. Inside is a lengthy expose by Lisa Belkin on this subject entitled "When Mom and Dad Share It All." Those familiar with the contents of the Gray Lady will be unmoved by yet another attempt to denigrate fathers. After all, fulfilling the needs of politically correct oppression merchants practically has become the paper's central purpose.
Ms. Belkin's story illuminates a substratum of society wherein husbands participate fully in the domestic operations of the home and are ecstatic about doing so. The interviewees are pondering, talking, scrubbing, and nursing icons of progressivism wholly dedicated to "equally shared parenting" or "shared care." Theirs is a "total football" approach to marital relationships, with no mandated positions for individual players. Man melds into woman as woman morphs into man.
The author's message is gaudily apparent in her description of one family's dynamic:
They would create their own model, one in which they were parenting partners. Equals and peers. They would work equal hours, spend equal time with their children, take equal responsibility for their home. Neither would be the keeper of the mental to-do lists; neither of their careers would take precedence. Both would be equally likely to plan a birthday party or know that the car needs oil or miss work for a sick child or remember (without prompting) to stop at the store for diapers and milk. ... There are Marcs and Amys scattered throughout the country, and the most interesting thing about them is that they are so very interesting. What they suggest, after all, is simple. Gender should not determine the division of labor at home.
A better explanation is that shared parenting is in keeping with the reporter's values. This caused her to search for examples with which to verify her assumptions. Kathleen Parker, in her recently released book Save the Males: Why Men Matter Why Women Should Care, argues that there is more to such stories than the imparting of information: "They're choreographed vignettes aimed at redefining sex and gender. Making men and women interchangeable requires taking women out of the home and putting men in her place. As long as we're all happy and having a good time -- and taking our Prozac -- we hardly notice the nausea that comes from being manipulated into behaving in ways that are for many unnatural."
Granted, these couples are interesting as any study of societal outliers invariably is, but Belkin's piece is editorial masquerading as journalism. The New York Times showcases these folks in the hope that the rest of us will learn from their example. They pray that recalcitrant males will modify their behavior and get on with the business of neutering themselves. Wives should present these pages to their lesser halves and exclaim: "These guys are fish. Why can't you be like them? Get with the program!"