Ask Amelia: Do Blondes Really Have More Fun?

I want a new look for 2014.  Do blondes really have more fun? Or do brunettes? Or is 2014 the year of the redhead? Please help.

—Ready for Change

Dear Ready,

It sounds like you are ready to take 2014 and run with it! First, I think you need to decide what 2014 is going to mean for your life. Stick close to your natural color if you’re feeling like going back to your roots (no pun intended), but kick it up a notch. Your colorist can help you find just the right shade. Feeling spicy? Go red. A little mysterious? Go dark (but not black unless you’re feeling goth and have an incredible colorist who can keep it shiny). Feeling playful and flirty? Blonde! The world is your oyster -- and you can always change colors when you change your mind. Have fun!

My roommate is a slob.  She leaves dirty dishes (with food still on them!) out until the maid comes -- which is only once every two weeks.  Any advice for what to do in the meantime?

—At Wit’s End

Dear Wits,

Ah, roommate travails. These are always tricky. Do you ever get frustrated and do the dishes for her? I’d stop doing that. I assume you share the same dishes? If not, she will quickly run out of the dishes which are designated as “hers” and be forced to wash them.

Honesty is probably the only way forward here. She might not know that you’re seething underneath and this can be fixed by a quick conversation. Don’t be accusatory, just let her know that it makes the house look messy and drives you a little crazy (maybe even make a joke about what a neat-freak you are so it seems like you’re taking some of the responsibility). However, you also need to be prepared for the fact that she might not care. There’s a good chance that she’ll keep doing it, or mend her ways for a few weeks and fall back into the same old habits. At that point, you have to decide just how much it bothers you -- enough to find a new roommate?

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