You’re assuming that gay marriage is strictly monogamous. It often isn’t. I’d like to know the statistics of divorce among recently married gays.

I went out for lunch recently with an old friend I hadn’t seen in awhile. He was “married” to a gay man a few years ago and divorced less than a year later. The guy, much younger than my friend, got the car. My friend’s now living with his partner who, he confided to me, he’d rather not be with anymore. When I asked if he could just tell his partner that he’d prefer him to move out of his condo, he said he was afraid to because his partner has a real temper.

Monogamy isn’t “natural” to the gay libido or lifestyle. That’s not a value judgment but an observation — not just mine but that of countless men active in the gay lifestyle. Multiple partners, sometimes in one night, is the norm.