Dear Roger,
I am an admirer of your insights, and I agree to a certain extent. I believe you are reacting to the pressure to force feelings. And you are right, we shouldn’t feel guilty for being happy or content or not continually wringing our hands in grief.
Amazing isn’t it, that Americans are capable of caring about those outside their tribe or family. We just have to make our caring for those near us actual in work and deed (like the Samaritan). Other than contribute money (and our taxes), remember we can always pray for those in need.