always right: Call around for a gun range that rents guns. They will really appreciate it if you come in on a weekday, because you’re going to take some time. The nice people will unlock every case in the store if necessary to help you find something you can handle comfortably. They will show you the important ratios of trigger length and so forth. Good luck with that; my best match is a Beretta Bobcat (I’m so embarrassed!).

Having found a comfy fit, they will sell you the ammo and range time to try it. Their ammo is going to be “hotter” than you would use for home defense and it will sting your hands more, so just know that going in. If it hurts your elbows, ask someone what you’re doing wrong. Consider paying for a brief “newbie” lesson if you feel uncomfortable. Comfort leads to competence which leads to confidence. Trust me when I tell you that everyone at the range will trip over themselves to help you. Men who like guns really like to help women learn to like guns.

Having selected something suitable, make your casual cash purchase at a gun show (this may take more than one show). Return to the range for practice. Have a big smile on your face as you return home. Let it slip how much fun you’re having. Shortly your husband will want to come see what you’re up to. He has big hands so he won’t like your gun. Repeat steps as needed. It’s healthy for a couple to go to the range together.

Mr. Fernandez, thank you for your indulgence in providing a means to answer always right’s questions.