W,
You hope for my patience and understanding, yet there was no example of my putative forcefullness. I would also point out that without citing what I have done it makes your decision look capricious.
I assure you, you have many other choices to make.
Understanding and patient? That sir is risible when you hold all the cards, shuffle the deck,deal them, and then without allowing the player to look at his hand declare it a loser and banish him for bad play.

Is that the act of a wise man?