Unfortunately, for most Jewish kids – at least for those whose parents have the label Reform/Conservative/Reconstructinist – the Bar/Bat Mitzvas is the last time they step food in a beit knesset/synagogue. Those that attend day schools (Jewish private schools) – whether they be modern Orthodox or Ultra-Orthodox yeshivahs – have a better chance of keepig their kids in the fold and not intermarrying. I’m not saying there aren’t kids who turn away from Judaism from the more traditional frameworks; but they are fewer than in the others. We Jews have a big problem – from the left-wing (it includes politically as well) “do your own thing; whatever feels good” brand of Judaism to the ultra-Orthodox “Why? Because that’s what’s written!” – there is no sane Orthodox middle ground that both honors and obeys the Torah but at the same time addresses current needs and issues. In the past there were reinterpretations. But they aren’t happening today, especially in Israel. One of the big differences between Jews and Muslims is that we don’t get all bent out of shape and violent over questions like these. I don’t have to worry about someone threatening me for what I’ve written.

Shalom! (it also means goodbye {:>)

From ml: actually there are many so-called “modern orthodox” synagogues in America, just what you seem to be wishing for. And as you would expect they are more and more popular.