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How A Church Turned A Christmas Blessing Into a Curse: Why Good Intentions are Never Enough

Week 12 of 13 Weeks to Family Financial Freedom After a Crisis

by
Rhonda Robinson

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September 15, 2013 - 7:00 am
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Another Christmas approached with Mike still unable to work.

Once again, the same scenario occurred. The large black garbage bag and open box arrived just days before Christmas. This time, it didn’t thrill me.

By then, the financial stress had taken its toll. An entire year spent struggling, praying for healing and release to go back to work. Opening that garbage bag behind closed doors, signified that we couldn’t give our children the Christmas they once knew.

Here’s the thing.

It wasn’t about the toys. A garbage bag full of the best toys in the world couldn’t heal the brokenness we felt. They couldn’t pack in a silk bag what our family really needed to make it Christmas for us.

We needed to be able to express our love to each of our children with thoughtful gifts. Just one present that said, “I know you. I see what you secretly long for. I know what makes you smile.”

Looking back this week I realized what turned that blessing into a curse.

I never knew what church sent those gifts– but they just kept coming year after year, long after we needed it. Once I tried to tell the guy bringing it, to get us off the list– we’re ok now. I explained we didn’t need it, and asked if he would please take it to someone that does. “It’s ok.” He shrugged. “Keep it.”

He couldn’t have known what that black garbage bag signified to me.

This week, I’ve taken this lesson of the past to heart. Although, in many ways this Christmas will have many of the same trademarks of that painful Christmas so long ago, however, I’ve learned the hard lessons of those years taught.

Circumstances, especially financial, are always temporary. It’s only permanent if we let it be. There will always be lean times and seasons of abundance.  In times such as these, is when we look for new opportunities; they provide a catalyst for uprooting and daring drastic change.

I added another category to my budget, and gained a new resolve to be the blessing that I once prayed for.

 

Have you ever been hurt by someone’s good intentions? How can we change that? How can we see truly help someone this Christmas? What do you think?

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Rhonda Robinson writes on the social, political and parenting issues currently shaping the American family. She lives with her husband and teenage daughter in Middle Tennessee. www.amotherslife.me Follow on twitter @amotherslife

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>> Looking back this week I realized what turned that blessing into a curse.

>> He couldn’t have known what that black garbage bag signified to me.

I don't see how anyone who gives ever knows what it truly signifies to the recipient. The "turned a blessing into a curse" seems a bit dramatic. I guess we're idealistically led to believe that giving is always felt as a blessing to the recipient. If only. Something tells me that when you strive to be "the blessing that I once prayed for" that you'll find someone that doesn't agree with your assessment of what you're doing. The same as it ever was. Life is painful. It's normal. Now if that guy really won't take you off the list, then you should simply refuse it graciously for the reasons you gave. That is the proper response to gifts that are not needed, whether they cause you pain or not.
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"A garbage bag full of the best toys in the world couldn’t heal the brokenness we felt. They couldn’t pack in a silk bag what our family really needed to make it Christmas for us."

Yes. Sometimes all you can do isn't enough. However...

"He [R. Tarfon] said, 'It is not upon you to complete the task, but you are not free to idle from it." (Pirke Avot 2:21) Sometimes all you can do isn't enough. That doesn't mean you can stop doing it.
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"be the blessing that I once prayed for"

That says it all.
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