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How Modern Life Transforms Men into Wussies

Marv will be right over with your purse.

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John Hawkins

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February 27, 2013 - 7:00 am

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The Arrangement

But the biggest changes have occurred in the nexus between economics and relationships.

For most of American history an uneducated but hardworking man could get a job that would support him, his wife, and a family. He might not be rich or have the best of the best, but he could get by. Since few women were educated or able to earn a good living, their surest path to success was to find a man who could provide for them. This led to an implicit arrangement: The woman stayed home, took care of the kids and the house, and treated the man as the king of the castle. In return, he was expected to work as much as necessary to provide for his family.

“The arrangement” has been shattered beyond repair in recent decades by a number of factors.

For one, as America has become more prosperous and wages have risen, international shipping has become more practical, and technology has advanced, many low-skill, high-paying jobs have either been replaced by technology or gone overseas. This means that a hard-working but unskilled and uneducated man who could have once supported a family can often now barely support himself.

Additionally, as educational and job opportunities for women became prevalent, suddenly most women found that they didn’t “need” to marry a man or even stay married to support themselves. In fact, if worse comes to worse, the government steps into the role as the father and provides welfare, food stamps, school lunches, and so many other benefits. Indeed, in some cases today a single mom is better off with a $29,000 job and welfare than taking a $69,000 job.

What this means is that there are tens of millions of men who would have been desirable mates with good jobs whose value as men on the dating market has dropped precipitously. They’re no longer as valued; so if they get married, they’re not going to be the “king of the castle” they would have been 50 years ago. Moreover, divorce is now very common and the system is heavily slanted against men. The woman is much more likely to get custody of the kids, while the father is also likely to be hit with punitive child support payments, even if his former wife is doing better financially. While improved economic status has made a potential divorce much more attractive for women in bad marriages, it has paradoxically made marriage a much less attractive option for men overall.

Given all of that, are these numbers a surprise?

Barely half of all adults in the United States—a record low—are currently married, and the median age at first marriage has never been higher for brides (26.5 years) and grooms (28.7), according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of U.S. Census data.

In 1960, 72% of all adults ages 18 and older were married; today just 51% are. If current trends continue, the share of adults who are currently married will drop to below half within a few years.

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Add to the fact that faggotry is displayed on TV and movies and men are told it's fine to BE a fairy, fruit-loop, sissy-boy, girly-man or flaming queer, why should we be surprised at the loss of American manhood?
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The pendulum has swung from a society where men had all the power to one where women have all the power (via government intervention). The pendulum should correct itself, ultimately, but that will only happen if men wake up and do more than just complain and check out.
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I realize this article is fairly old, but I felt the need to comment on it, so I will.

This article utterly misses what it means to be a man. Males have a choice: Be a boy or be a man. I was a boy when I was young, now I am a man. This does not mean that I'm good at fighting or that I'm a good athlete or any other vision of manhood you would like to conjure up.

The difference is simple:
1) Boys use their circumstances as excuses and rely on pity and the compassion of others to ease their suffering. Men work to overcome their circumstances and embrace their suffering as a test of character and virtue.

2) Boys refuse to accept their responsibilities, making careless, easy, decisions, and taking rash actions hoping to avoid being held accountable and prepared to blame others if necessary. Men embrace their responsibilities and make thoughtful, tough, decisions and take deliberate actions expecting to be held accountable for them.

3) Boys demean women and treat them as sexual objects. Men respect women and treat them as human beings.

Those 3 things separate the men from the boys. The old time images of men invoked by the author are merely maifestations of those 3 things. Choose to be a man, or don't, but don't expect me to feel sorry for you because I have suffered and overcome my circumstances. When you do the same, we can have a drink and share our stories of how our struggle against our suffering served to make us stronger. If you choose to remain a boy, then don't expect us men to invite you to our table to drink with us. A seat at that table is reserved for those who earn it. Those who choose to remain boys aren't welcome.
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tldr
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So you just finished pointing out just how crappy the situation is for men, and then chide us for not participating in it?
1 year ago
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The only problem I have with the article is the negative reference to gamers. This is the second article posted by PJ writers that painted gamers in a negative light. We're not all losers living in our parents' basements living out some "fantasy" or whatever else you guys are writing about us.

My husband and I both game, and our circle of friends game, and not a one of us makes less than 95k a year. We're college educated professors, counselors, programmers, network engineers, nuclear engineers, and doctors. We're politically conservative, married, home-owning upper middle-class Americans. We're also gamers.
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O.K., guys, why do we put up with this faux "liberated female" B.S.?

Haven't we brought this on ourselves?

Why be a wuss?

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Add to the fact that faggotry is displayed on TV and movies and men are told it's fine to BE a fairy, fruit-loop, sissy-boy, girly-man or flaming queer, why should we be surprised at the loss of American manhood?
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Poofters are products of a specific birth defect. Your neighbor's kid will never be converted to buggery, although if he's ever caught by the local NAMBLA gang, he might develop some serious kinks. Human Nature (inherited, innate, immutable) governs every human society. Whatever men do is high-status; whatever women do is low-status. Forget getting your boys into prep school -- that's on it's way out right now. Rather, start him in some sport or other. Sports will be the pinnacle of society, because women can't play. With lawyeresses and soldierettes taking those roles down to char-lady and scrub-woman levels, the pro athlete will rule. Of course, education in math and hard science will still be worth pursuing, as girls can't do that either. Once you see that societies always have been, are now, and always will be dominated by males, you can ignore the little bumps in the road and keep your eye on the highway markers.
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You will still find more traditional male/female roles outside of the cities, and even outside of the suburbs. Go to small towns in Pennsylvania and find communities that value more than a dollar, and you'll see women who really love their kids, and fathers who really love their wives.
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You will still find more traditional male/female roles outside of the cities, and even outside of the suburbs. Go to small towns in Pennsylvania and find communities that value more than a dollar, and you'll see women who really love their kids, and fathers who really love their wives.
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Actually much fun is to be had. Now guys select on economic performance, at least for something that might last bit. When I was a kid, the dream was a 28 year old I-Banker who was good in bed. Now with so many more woman at a given level, someone with equal quals can really get picky.

Now is the time to drive a really hard bargain: now we have trophy dudes.
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John, that was a truly great piece. So well said. I'm learning what it is to be a man from memories of my father. At some point you realize how much of our culture has been feminized. How much of it has become foreign to us. What to do all depends on your vocation. Those who are scholars should study philosophy, history, and theology just as it was before the culture was feminized. Those who are regular Joes should ignore the culture and get in touch with their inner Clint Eastwood.
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