The Source of Both Infinite Happiness and Meaning
George Wolfe is a professor, musician, and ordained interfaith minister. We became friends after I interviewed him for my undergraduate political science senior thesis in 2006. When I returned to live in Muncie in December of 2007 — only becoming engaged to a woman not yet graduated would inspire me to move back to my college town — he and I reconnected. My fiancee and I attended George’s inter-faith worship services and his Gandharva meditation classes. When it came time to find someone to marry us in May 2009, George was the obvious choice. We had an interfaith marriage service, utilizing rituals from numerous traditions.
As George and I grew closer in synch spiritually we drifted apart politically. In 2006, when we met, we both fit in the mainstream of today’s Democratic Party. MSNBC, New York Times, NPR, Academic Baby Boomer Liberalism. Today, my ideological labels of choice after enduring a number of rightward kicks: Counterculture Conservative, Tea Party Occultist, Capitalist Wizard, and Anti-Slavery Republican. But this hasn’t disrupted our friendship. On the handful of occasions were we’ve stumbled into political discussions, we’ve managed to disagree respectfully and learn from one another.
That’s what I hope for in the coming weeks as George and I discuss the new edition of his book The Spiritual Power of Nonviolence: Interfaith Understanding for a Future Without War in a dialogue on Sundays here at PJ Lifestyle. In it, he argues both points I still agree with enthusiastically and others that I’ve now spent years opposing full time. George’s overall approach is one with which I continue to empathize: he seeks to integrate together a personal interfaith-spirituality with the practical, real-world task of peacemaking. Through greater understanding of common stories and mythological concepts, we can recognize a common path forward for all human beings to pursue in freedom and harmony. Where we disagree is in our interpretations of key mythological stories and the order we emphasize and value various religious concepts.
I hope that our dialogue can serve as both a discourse on the issues and an encouragement for others to pursue intra-religious discussions across the political lines. Because it’s truly a strange day in this country when conservative Jews, Christians, secularists, and Buddhists are more likely to get along than they would with their faiths’ progressive counterparts…
But we’re only going to change this intolerably polarized status quo and find that elusive happiness and meaning if we start talking. The last word to Emily Esfahani-Smith from her great Atlantic piece:
What sets human beings apart from animals is not the pursuit of happiness, which occurs all across the natural world, but the pursuit of meaning, which is unique to humans, according to Roy Baumeister, the lead researcher of the study and author, with John Tierney, of the recent book Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength. Baumeister, a social psychologists at Florida State University, was named an ISI highly cited scientific researcher in 2003.
The study participants reported deriving meaning from giving a part of themselves away to others and making a sacrifice on behalf of the overall group. In the words of Martin E. P. Seligman, one of the leading psychological scientists alive today, in the meaningful life “you use your highest strengths and talents to belong to and serve something you believe is larger than the self.” For instance, having more meaning in one’s life was associated with activities like buying presents for others, taking care of kids, and arguing.
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The pursuit of happiness is the Declaration of Independence. However, that was an unfortunate edit of the original. Adam Smith and others said “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Property.” Property was changed to happiness in the Declaration because property had an elitist connotation so it was a political decision of the moment.
What’s bad about this was that the other writers believed that “several property” was the foundation of freedom. That is to say the right to own private property and to have a government based on protecting that right was necessary to maintain a free society. Happiness? What good is that if you’re a slave?
I thought it is because property is not “inalienable” – you can give it up, and it can be expropriated, althoguh the Constitution does requre compensation. As Alan Keyes points out (if I understood him correctly), if liberty is inalienable, you can’t even sell yourself into slavery.
(P.S. And suicide should then be illegal.)
I noticed right away how the first study you cited equated “happiness” to a very childish definition. You were apparently happy if you could satisfy your every childish, selfish whim. Of course, I understand that’s why you quoted Ablow right after, and it plays perfectly into the current play to render our society one that can be easily bought by the cleverest demagogue of the day. This was the downfall of classical Athens and Rome, and it seems it may well be the downfall of America that we are “privileged” to witness today.
Of course, we may also be privileged enough to see what happens when the money runs out, too. Will we devolve into French Reolvution style chaos or something more principled?
Right now, it’s anyone’s guess. I do think the current power brokers will be torn down either way.
Yeah, kinda looks like Dave is equating happiness and pleasure. It’s a sad commentary on our society that so many Americans don’t know the difference. Occasionally they coincide, but they’re often mutually exclusive.
Yeah. Everybody knows happiness coincides with fun. Not, not fun – the other thing that’s like fun but not as naughty. I can’t remember now.
It seems that your research of religion leaves out an important factor: truth.
Hypothetically, were universal truth revealed to you, but its actuality was, in your opinion, distasteful – or didn’t result in “happiness” – would you choose to ignore reality?
More succinctly; ff you disagreed with facts of reality would you attempt to believe a lie?
Religion and ritual are things you do.
Faith is a state of belief; and understanding of truth.
Reality is what it is.
“Reality is what it is.”
http://pjmedia.com/lifestyle/2013/01/12/10-secret-reasons-why-the-avengers-is-the-best-superhero-film/10/
Exodus 3:1-15:
3 Now Moses was tending the flock of Jethro his father-in-law, the priest of Midian, and he led the flock to the far side of the wilderness and came to Horeb, the mountain of God. 2 There the angel of the Lord appeared to him in flames of fire from within a bush. Moses saw that though the bush was on fire it did not burn up. 3 So Moses thought, “I will go over and see this strange sight—why the bush does not burn up.”
4 When the Lord saw that he had gone over to look, God called to him from within the bush, “Moses! Moses!”
And Moses said, “Here I am.”
5 “Do not come any closer,” God said. “Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy ground.” 6 Then he said, “I am the God of your father,[a] the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac and the God of Jacob.” At this, Moses hid his face, because he was afraid to look at God.
7 The Lord said, “I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their suffering. 8 So I have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey—the home of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites. 9 And now the cry of the Israelites has reached me, and I have seen the way the Egyptians are oppressing them. 10 So now, go. I am sending you to Pharaoh to bring my people the Israelites out of Egypt.”
11 But Moses said to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?”
12 And God said, “I will be with you. And this will be the sign to you that it is I who have sent you: When you have brought the people out of Egypt, you[b] will worship God on this mountain.”
13 Moses said to God, “Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ Then what shall I tell them?”
14 God said to Moses, “I am who I am.[c] This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I am has sent me to you.’”
15 God also said to Moses, “Say to the Israelites, ‘The Lord,[d] the God of your fathers—the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac and the God of Jacob—has sent me to you.’
“This is my name forever, the name you shall call me from generation to generation.
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“Reality is what it is.”
“Reality is what you can get away with.” — Robert Anton Wilson
I am the way, and the truth, and the life.
Growing up, if I was feeling low, my dad would implore me to “do something for someone else” to take the focus off myself. Best advice I’ve ever been given.
An article like this is like firing for effect with the pjmedia commenters.
I really like the idea of having a life of meaning and purpose. The pursuit of pleasure is a dead end street. I cringe, though, at the notion that there are many paths to God. If Jesus rose from the dead then He’s the only path to God. If He didn’t raise from the dead then it’s anybody’s guess which path is the right one to the God who may or may not be there.
You know a tree by its fruit.
This fits in with the official Israeli statistics. The “religious right” even feels better about their health, in spite of having less money to purchase medical care.
I have to object to this prejudice against allowing multiple wives. This is a peculiarity of Chistianity, which took it from the pagan Romans, who were not exactly exemplars of fairness. For example, secular archaeologist Yigal Yadin found a woman’s satchel, basically her safe deposit box, with her legal papers. In the Jewish (Rabbinic) and Nabatean (Arab) courts she represented herself. In the Roman courts she needed a man to front for her.
(Israel does prohibit polygamy, but I believe we allow people to retain wives they had before coming. Western Jews are generally prohibited by custom, kind of like the custom not to eat rice and beans on Passover – it was not universally accepted, there are exceptions, and no-one really knows why.)
Regarding giving, I would like to mention Rabbi Dessler’s famous point, that one tends to love a person because one gives them something, rather than because one received from that person.
“Which religion is true?”
None.
Religion is a stopgap, an approximation. Religion is mans attempt to codify, linearly, it’s experiences with the Divine, which is not linear. Along the route, social and personal mores from various eras were attached as holy writ.
Nuggets of truth appear in most religions, as do descriptions of actual experiences with the Divine, provided said religion has actually had any.
But no religion holds the Truth, because that capital ‘T’ Truth isn’t with the Divine in the way man wants.
Farmers Tribute: So God Made A Farmer. Paul Harvey
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QuzhwkaNC40
You meet this fellow, and you find that his compass points to some other North. Do you prefer to 1. Swap compasses? 2. Try to fix his compass? 3. Try to fix your compass? 4. Share a good laugh? 5. Despair? 6. Trade one corner of your map for one corner of his map? 7. Try to invent a stereoscopic compass that will point to both Northes? 8. Try to figure out if the fellow is happier than you, and therefore has the better compass?
Sorry, my question was completely misleading, because I forgot to state whether the fellow was friendly or not in the first place. Scratch everything, go back to square one, and start again! The more comfortable we are, the more vulnerable we are to be led in some self-defeating direction?
“It is the very pursuit of happiness,” Frankl knew, “that thwarts happiness.”
- Interestingly, this conclusion is well supported by Jesus teaching. In the sermon on the mount (Lk 6:20), He declares happiness the result (or byproduct)of a more fundamental and therefore, important pursuit, rather than an end in itself.
This is clear from the subject/object construction of the sentence, “Blessed are the poor in spirit” ,the first announcement He makes. Paraphrased, this means, “Happy are you who realize you are in great need”. Nowhere does Jesus say something like, “Happy are you who strive for happiness”. Instead, the message in this verse and the ones that follow is that our pursuit should be Righteousness itself – or more correctly – God Himself. Someone else has wisely said, “Aim for Heaven and you get earth thrown in. Aim for earth and you’ll get neither.”