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5 Reasons Men Cheat

Are you missing the signs?

by
John Hawkins

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January 23, 2013 - 7:00 am

3) He’s stuck in a sexual desert

Nobody gets in a relationship to “not have sex.” Even men who date chaste women are at least thrilled by the promise of sex to come. That’s why it’s so strange that some women have come to the conclusion that it’s fine if copulation is going to be a once-in-a-blue-moon event. The “why” is probably something to share with a therapist, but the result is that the partner is going to be tempted to look elsewhere — and what else would you expect? Sex is an implicit promise in a long-term relationship and it may not be good, right, or moral for a man to cheat if his needs aren’t being met, but it’s about as surprising as the sun coming up in the morning.

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I too agree only so far with the author. I must counter that while some very valid reasons are given, there is one very obvious one that is completely missed.....

Because the trollop he's chasing will let him do it.

Let me be frank... if women would stop rewarding this behavior by gladly parting their legs for any man who flirts with them regardless of his cheating or not... if the women would stop making excuses for why it's 'OKAY' or 'understandable' that he should feel the need to cheat, if women would stop watching soap operas as guides to personal interactions and slam the door in the face of the jerk the moment you find out he is stepping out on his wife to be with her..... Then the large majority of this problem would vanish over night.

Unfortunately the core of this problem lies not with the woman as you seem to direct, and not with the man, but lies with this culture's need to be happy, damn the consequences or who gets hurt. In the narcissistic pursuit of self gratification, the justifications listed above make perfect sense. The male is clearly incapable of honorable, loyal, trustworthy behavior without the woman being at his sexual beck and call and at her prime as an ornament for his awesomeness..... Or... as you said in your first, if he's given to cheat he's going to continue to do it.... granted, but you laid it at the women's feet to choose to improve themselves to meet his standards or don't choose a man who cheats....

You have completely ignored that men cheat because society accepts and idolizes trollops.... There is no social stigma attached to the best friend who runs off with your man, there is actually a heavy push in society to be understanding and not involve your friends in the fight over a back stabbing trollop and a horndog of a husband unable to value commitment and friendship or deny their basest impulses in favor of not hurting others...

Quite frankly, the underlying message here seems to be Men cheat, women if you don't want them too, don't have kids, don't get old, don't get ugly and have 'relations' with them whenever they want you to... Because you're the one whose job it is to keep HIM happy....

Isn't this EXACTLY The kind of theme that the progressive Liberal Media is trying to ram down our throats daily? It's not his fault, you drove him to it, you have to be understanding, he's not able to stop himself from being disloyal or unfaithful... Uh huh.... I'm suddenly starting to see why lesbianism may be a good idea if that's the sort of sh*t Conservatives AND Liberals are shoveling when it comes to a man's honor and responsibility being worth sh*t if he isn't getting it polished once a day by a hottie.

Now I understand your point here was how a woman could choose to correct the situation... and making an honorable man out of a louse seems impossible... but... I put it to you... if he thinks that CHEAPLY of the woman he pledged his life to, to run around on her despite his vows rather than end their marriage, then wouldn't the woman be better off without him as the man has no honor, no loyalty and is by his very nature dishonest and untrustworthy? If your man cheats, dump his butt, he's not worth the heart ache trying to compete with some trollop.
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I too agree only so far with the author. I must counter that while some very valid reasons are given, there is one very obvious one that is completely missed.....

Because the trollop he's chasing will let him do it.

Let me be frank... if women would stop rewarding this behavior by gladly parting their legs for any man who flirts with them regardless of his cheating or not... if the women would stop making excuses for why it's 'OKAY' or 'understandable' that he should feel the need to cheat, if women would stop watching soap operas as guides to personal interactions and slam the door in the face of the jerk the moment you find out he is stepping out on his wife to be with her..... Then the large majority of this problem would vanish over night.

Unfortunately the core of this problem lies not with the woman as you seem to direct, and not with the man, but lies with this culture's need to be happy, damn the consequences or who gets hurt. In the narcissistic pursuit of self gratification, the justifications listed above make perfect sense. The male is clearly incapable of honorable, loyal, trustworthy behavior without the woman being at his sexual beck and call and at her prime as an ornament for his awesomeness..... Or... as you said in your first, if he's given to cheat he's going to continue to do it.... granted, but you laid it at the women's feet to choose to improve themselves to meet his standards or don't choose a man who cheats....

You have completely ignored that men cheat because society accepts and idolizes trollops.... There is no social stigma attached to the best friend who runs off with your man, there is actually a heavy push in society to be understanding and not involve your friends in the fight over a back stabbing trollop and a horndog of a husband unable to value commitment and friendship or deny their basest impulses in favor of not hurting others...

Quite frankly, the underlying message here seems to be Men cheat, women if you don't want them too, don't have kids, don't get old, don't get ugly and have 'relations' with them whenever they want you to... Because you're the one whose job it is to keep HIM happy....

Isn't this EXACTLY The kind of theme that the progressive Liberal Media is trying to ram down our throats daily? It's not his fault, you drove him to it, you have to be understanding, he's not able to stop himself from being disloyal or unfaithful... Uh huh.... I'm suddenly starting to see why lesbianism may be a good idea if that's the sort of sh*t Conservatives AND Liberals are shoveling when it comes to a man's honor and responsibility being worth sh*t if he isn't getting it polished once a day by a hottie.

Now I understand your point here was how a woman could choose to correct the situation... and making an honorable man out of a louse seems impossible... but... I put it to you... if he thinks that CHEAPLY of the woman he pledged his life to, to run around on her despite his vows rather than end their marriage, then wouldn't the woman be better off without him as the man has no honor, no loyalty and is by his very nature dishonest and untrustworthy? If your man cheats, dump his butt, he's not worth the heart ache trying to compete with some trollop.
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I think that there is more cheating now because of women's lib. Men and women are in intimate situations in the workplace that are inappropriate for men and women who are not married to each other. Feminist/Cultural Marxism can be found at the root of all our social ills.
P.S. I thought of Mrs. David Petraeus with the "woman lets herself go" reason.
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I am shocked (and newly educated) at some of the assertions in the post about why Men cheat. I agree with most of them. However, i had always hated the phrase "letting herself go" UGH! It reminds me of Jack Nicholson's character in The Witches of Eastwick when he talks about the irony of the desires of men. He says something to the effect of, "A Man gets upset that his wife is "dead" when he is the one who killed her." It "takes two to tango" and while cheating does not happen in a vacuum, a turned-off wife doesn't happen in a vacuum either.

One point I would make regarding the "letting herself go" comment. I truly believe that what is more important to a man is the sex in his marriage. A wife may not look exactly as she did when he married her, but if the sex life is good, he doesn't care so much. I know many a "perfectly toned" gal who works so hard to keep her body in shape that she is too tired to have sex. She may have not "let herself go, but she ain't giving it to her husband either!
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