An Iranian-American in Defense of Shahs of Sunset
One of the most wonderful things about Iranians is that, though we have no sense of humor and take ourselves entirely too seriously, we are comedic geniuses. We enjoy making ourselves laugh at our misfortunes and the misfortunes of others. Invaders, looters, sackers, and pillagers have come and gone, and our unique kind of humor has helped us remain immovably Persian. Holding on to one’s identity in the midst of turmoil and uncertainty is generally a good thing — and then the Persian conspiracy theory cauldron begins to boil and bubble.
We’re highly ambitious and hard-working people who love bling and all the goodies life has to offer, but, like the Dutch Calvinists and today’s Americans, God forbid some of us get ahead in a way that others deem crass. That’s when a self-appointed faction of the arbiter elegantiarum gets indignant and comes out in droves to proclaim the abject misrepresentation of the Children of Cyrus by opportunist Iranians who sold a bill of goods to some well-meaning but equally opportunistic westerner. They mobilize angry, insulting letter-writing campaigns denouncing the thing to the person(s) in charge (Ryan Seacrest got a raft of how-dare-you letters).
Iranian-Americans want our identity recognized as a minority of self-sufficient, modernist, and assimilating people who add a little cultural zest and sophistication to the American melting pot. So what better way than to be put on a common-denominator display such as reality TV?
One of the interesting factors in proving the fact that Iranians have nicely blended into the melting pot is that the main figures of the show (and their respective circles) show the same ethnic, religious, and even sexual diversities.
Another most fascinating aspect is Reza Farahan’s “gayness,” which can be seen from space. The fact that it’s addressed openly in the show is something of a step in the right direction. Though homosexuality has very much existed in the Middle East (and been punishable by execution in some parts), it has been a topic swept under the rug. Reza’s open sexual orientation forces the issue.
I must say that I am not a fan of this program. However, I like this article. It is brilliantly observant. I love your creative use of descriptive words like thugocrats, beardie-wierdies, and scuzzy (LOL).
Below are my favorite summations from your article:
“SoS pokes a finger in the eye of the progeny of Khomeini and their thugocrats by showing the real Iranian vs. vs. the scuzzy, ultraconservative Islamo-Imperialist who is perennially on the warpath with the entire planet. SoS provides other Americans a snapshot of a part of the Iranian-American landscape and offers viewers accessible characters to identify with and not the beardie-wierdies routinely force-fed to us by the mainstream media.”
“One of the things I do love about this show is that it shows Iranians as comfortably assimilated, albeit attached to their Iranian’ness’. They relish that part of their background and yet they’ve very nicely co-mingled with the ideal of the American melting-pot.”
“Anyhow, from where I stand, if we cannot even tolerate the manifold aspects of ourselves (in exile even), I wonder how we can push for a free Iran? Or do we want to just be eternally doing the Iranian regime’s dirty work for it by denying who we are and self-censoring. I say: put your money where your mouth is and live and let live.”
I slightly knew the Iranian ex-pat F.M. Esfandiary, who changed his name to FM-2030 for weird futurist ideological reasons. Back in the 1960′s FM published an article in The New York Times titled “The Beggar Rich,” about how prosperous Iranians and similar people in adjacent countries didn’t trust their neighbors or their governments to respect their property rights, so they would live well below their means, hide their valuable possessions and even beg in some instances.
From what I’ve gathered about this show, Iranians who live in the U.S. feel much more secure about their property rights and in their freedom to enjoy their wealth.
I met F.M. Esfandiary at a house party hosted by a mutual friend of ours in the late 80′s. He was a nice guy, though a little eccentric. I later found out that he was an medal Olympic athlete sometime in the late 50′s. I believe he was in field and track.
I’ve never seen “Shahs of Sunset” and don’t plan to. Not that I have anything against this particular show. I simply don’t watch “reality” television at all.
Thanks for stating what is so obvious to us, but so completely misunderstood by non-Iranians. My favorite term was “arbiter elegantiarum” classic! We hate posers, but do it so well. Lovely piece!
I have never seen this show, but it sounds fun. Anyway, I do happen to be a Dutch Calvinist — Dutch-American if we must be hyphenated, and I’m intrigued by this remark:
“We’re highly ambitious and hard-working people who love bling and all the goodies life has to offer, but, like the Dutch Calvinists and today’s Americans, God forbid some of us get ahead in a way that others deem crass.”
I don’t understand the meaning of that sentence. Is it the Dutch Calvinists who are getting ahead in ways today’s Americans deem crass, or is it the other way around? I long to understand any cultural reference to my own kind. Are you liking us or dissing us?
I’m not dissing Dutch Calvinists; I love Holland and I have a huge number of dear Dutch friends. I used to be an art world advisor to the Dutch Cultural Ministry for years and I spent ions in Holland and know the art/cultural/media/academic and political people there. The first thing I was told when I went there in ’89 in that capacity, by the head of the Groningen Museum told me that the Dutch like to look at their society like a lawn; if one blade of grass gets taller than the rest, they take the lawn mower out. And that is in a sense true. Many people in Holland have Prosches and yet within the boundaries of Holland, they drive their bikes and beaten up old VW Bugs. It’s about a certain kind of false modesty which Iranians AND Americans (nowadays) seem to have; it’s just like what the Groningen Museum director told me and I’ve observed with over 23 years of coming and going to Holland.
As any other reality Tv, there must be overdramatisation and intrigue in order to capture a audience who who would are interested in that kind of entertainment.
Being a Iranian in the same age as the people in the same age I must state I cant found anything in common with the people I see in the show.In no mean is the show any representation of th Iranians nor is it even a small perentage.It would be like saying the big brother represents a lot of Americans.
There is no shame in liking the show and waching it but please try not to make this a intelectual observation and make it to something its not.
That’s your opinion Observer. And that’s the problem with Iranians who talk about a free Iran and just because they don’t comingle with people in different circles or lifestyles, those people cannot POSSIBLY be Iranian. Get over yourself.