7 Lies Women Need to Stop Telling Themselves
Ladies, maybe if you stopped deluding yourselves about why your 37th fling didn't pan out, you'd have bagged your happily-ever-after by now.
October 15, 2012 - 7:00 am
3. He’s just not ready for a relationship yet.
It seems like you’re stuck in that “just dating” phase. You go out a few times a month, you have a great time, you’re sleeping together, everything seems perfect. But he refuses to make it official. He’s still seeing other girls, he refuses to make plans with you in advance, or — worst of all! — he won’t change his relationship status on Facebook. Your friends keep asking you what the deal with this guy is, and you keep wondering when he’s going to seal the deal. And you give that infamous excuse: he’s just not ready for a relationship yet.
But, of course, if you stick it out long enough, he’ll surely stop messing around and give you the magical “girlfriend” title, right?
Wake up, sweetheart. If a guy wants to be exclusive with you, he will be. If he refuses to make a commitment, it isn’t because he’s not ready. It’s because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship… with you. If he felt that strongly for you, then he’d take you off the market. And that doesn’t make him a jerk or you an idiot. There’s nothing wrong with casual dating. But if you’re looking for something deeper and he’s just not delivering, don’t lie to yourself about why. Kiss the guy goodbye and find someone who’s crazy enough about you to make it real.