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The Difference Between Sexy Bikinis and Slutty Thongs — And Why Little Girls Should Wear Neither

More swimwear thoughts from a future feminist father who's had enough of the mainstreaming of pimp/prostitute culture.

Dave Swindle


September 20, 2012 - 8:30 am
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‘Don’t some bikinis scream “I’m a tramp looking for attention from the wrong kind of men” more than others?’

Followed later with,

“Again: I’m not making a moral judgment with the observation here, just stating what should be common sense.”

Honestly Dave it does sound like a moral judgement. And besides, those sorts of bikinis garner attention from practically all men, not just the ‘wrong kind’ :)

We are all guilty of making snap moral judgements against others based upon what they are wearing, myself included. I just don’t think you could go to the beach and determine which women are more interested in sex by what type of swimsuit she’s wearing. Here’s an example – a few weeks ago while on a weekend vacation, I was at the pool early in the morning. I had on a bikini. A woman sitting poolside in a utilitarian one piece was reading Fifty Shades of Grey. I’m gonna say she was more interested in sex than me.

Geez, how did we even get on this topic? I think we are both in complete agreement that young girls in grown up bikinis conveys a message the girls themselves don’t understand, and that has the potential to be very dangerous.

What is actually true is not what gets filtered though the male sex drive. My last comment:

Well I have no problem making the moral judgment that women should not live as sluts sleeping around promiscuously. Don’t you? But that’s not the point that I’m making here. I’m making the practical point about male sexual nature and how men view women: the more of your breasts you reveal in public the more we think you want us to think about sex. That’s the hard truth, no pun intended. So when it comes to bikinis, the skimpier the bikini, the sluttier we are going to assume the woman wearing it is.

That does not mean that every bikini makes a man think you’re a slut. There are worlds of difference between a skimpy thong with tiny triangles for a top and the more normal bikini you were probably wearing.

“I’m gonna say she was more interested in sex than me.”

I’m not talking about objective reality, I’m talking about what men perceive. The man seeing you across the pool has no idea what she’s reading. He just sees you and you attract his attention and judgments whether you intended to or not. I’m talking about the practical world here.

Vesta is right that these 3 swimsuits are all going to attract male attention. But one of these three women is much more likely to draw in men who will disrespect her and try and seduce her.

Maybe the one whose fashion sense is most influenced by prostitute culture?


Bikinis featured in above illustration available at Amazon:

TYR Sport Women’s Solid Diamondback Workout Bikini Swim Suit, Hot! Bikini white, red or black, Sexy Womens Halter Side Cut Out Monokini Swimwear Bikini

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The Sex Bots Have Arrived

‘Feminist Progress Right Now Largely Depends on the Existence of the Hookup Culture.’

Wayne Brady: Bill Maher Likes His Black Men Violent and His Black Women Prostitutes

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David Swindle is the associate editor of PJ Media. He writes and edits articles and blog posts on politics, news, culture, religion, and entertainment. He edits the PJ Lifestyle section and the PJ columnists. Contact him at DaveSwindlePJM @ and follow him on Twitter @DaveSwindle. He has worked full-time as a writer, editor, blogger, and New Media troublemaker since 2009, at PJ Media since 2011. He graduated with a degree in English (creative writing emphasis) and political science from Ball State University in 2006. Previously he's also worked as a freelance writer for The Indianapolis Star and the film critic for He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and their Siberian Husky puppy Maura.
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