Women bloggers of the Jezebel persuasion seem to think Sarah Bridge is giving females advice out of one of those 1950s handbooks: that if they want to be popular, they should do a lot of smiling and nodding while the man is talking, and laugh at his jokes even if they suck and so on.
I think my fellow Toronto blogger Laura Rosen Cohen (who I wouldn’t want to meet in a dark cerebral alley) had a better take on Bridge’s article:
Surprisingly large numbers of smart women are actually married. So, this is about not being “too clever” but rather about not being such a critical, nitpicky crankypuss toward men that you become a complete turn off.
Obviously, I’m deeply biased, but I also don’t hear Bridge telling Marie Curie not to let on to Pierre about those two Nobel prizes.
Bridge simply seems to be suggesting that women not fill up the air with unsolicited, highly personal and probably cruel observations & advice or unfunny, mean-spirited “jokes.”
To which I’d add, dial down:
- tedious gossip about third parties, especially people he’s never met
- boring trivia about your job (such as the ongoing saga of the break-room fridge)
And, my personal favorite:
- Which “real” housewife bought which trendy frivolous accessory that you and your real husband can’t afford and don’t need. (See “Carolla, Adam,” above.)
Speaking of husbands, how, you might ask, does mine cope with my “autocorrect”?
He doesn’t have to.
My compulsive need to be right weeded out all the idiots until I met my spouse.
Arnie’s wrong about PCs, but that’s about it.
Being married to a guy who already knows everything too has weakened my “snip” reflex.
What can I say? He knows more about World War II (and lots of other things) than I do.
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