4.“You’re The Most Beautiful, Talented Girl in the Whole World.”
We’ve all seen this one play out on American Idol. It’s like gawking at a bad car wreck — heart-wrenching to see, but you just can’t look away.
Poor misguided souls wander onto the stage convinced they are the next gift to the world. Then it happens. They open their mouths and out falls the truth for all to hear. Their voices should have stayed in the shower.
When the judges administer a dose of reality — often without anesthesia — you can see the pain on the contestant’s face.
It’s a sad sight that makes me wonder, “Oh, honey, who lied to you?”
They set you up to fail. Unfortunately, these people did it on national television.
One of the most wonderful things about being a parent is the ability to first see and then bring out the best in our children. However, it’s not part of the job description to over-inflate your child’s ego. Case in point: I recently heard a father tell his daughter, “You are the prettiest girl in the whole world.”
Not too long after, her big brother echoed the same praise. This is a daily family ritual.
The lie wasn’t in her beauty. Her long, blonde hair hung in soft ringlets around big hazel eyes.
The lie came embedded in her daddy’s attempt to express his love for her. She is the apple of his eye. But that does not make her the most beautiful girl in the entire world.
When she steps outside of the family circle, she will not only find someone that outshines her, but also a big shot willing to point it out. By then she will have developed an over-inflated sense of self-importance.
A loving father, with one simple exaggeration, can set his little girl up for a failure she’s not prepared to handle.
Which, of course, can lead to her own lies of self-preservation…