My husband wears his wedding ring more than I do. I also have lost a significant amount of weight since we got married and the ring falls off my finger. But then again I have had swelling when pregnant so I may not wear a resized ring if it is too small. I am also prone to weird weight fluctuations and hate the idea of resizing only to resize again. I also work out and take the ring off (at home chin up bar) and sometimes forget to put it back on.
I also bake a lot due to multiple severe food allergies of three members of my family and the dough gets stuck under my ring. Also, I bake for gluten free people too so cross contamination from wheat under my ring to another food would be very bad.
I have made good faith efforts to wear the ring. I even started wearing my mother’s wedding ring because it is smaller. Unfortunately unlike my plain smooth gold ring this one has diamonds the have scratched my babies. The sharpness is also the reason why I don’t wear my engagement ring. When I got engaged I had a somewhat stressful job and I have a nervous thing where I wring my hands without thinking. I would come home with cuts on my hands and not know where they were coming from. Turns out it was the engagement ring. No doubt the diamond wedding ring would probably be problematic.
So more often than not I don’t wear my ring. It used to bother my husband but after losing my ring in the office for 2 weeks (finally found on the floor after turning the place upside down!) and then almost vacuuming up my ring when it fell off again… I think he kind of sees my dilemma. So I try on special nonstressful occasions to wear sometimes using my sharp engagement ring to hold it in place.
Men, would you make your wife wear a ring? There seems to be a double standard out there with wives wearing rings while many men are off the hook.
Oh, and I hate wearing rings. Especially when I play musical instruments. Urgh!
I also hyphenated my name after we married. Kept my maiden name for professional reasons and because my parents only had girls, no boys to carry my father’s name directly from him. I could at least keep it for a little longer. But I made a decision to still have my husband’s name too. Still my in-laws gave me a hard time by not addressing me as my hyphenated last name even though my husband corrected them many times.. For years! Years!
