Manning Up or Wimping Out: Men Don’t Exist to Serve Women’s Desires
Cool. Throw me whatever you got. I’d love to read it. I don’t see how you could say my stats are wrong, but I would be happy to learn something different.
I can see where you could get that idea from what I wrote but it’s not really my intention. I guess to a certain extent to a certain extent the way you read me could have some truth to it that even I was not aware of. I do believe that because of the physical power differential it’s hard for men to know what it’s like to be in a woman’s shoes. But I can also see the ignorance in that as even men have to deal with power differentials with other men- and even sometimes women. (Whether as men or children.) I’m sure we all know what that feels like to have someone stronger, or just more violent than us who if they choose could hurt us or force us to do something. So my bad on the ignorant implication.
The bottom line is, I don’t think that working to crush, twist, or contort anyone so they fit what you want is okay- whether women are doing it to men, or men are doing it to women. I think one of the dilemmas is that they ways in which men had done it to women were more obvious for a long time. However, I think that as many people pointed out things like the way men are treated when it comes to custody and divorce are astonishing.
My point was that none of this exists in a vacuum. There is a background to story to this that feeds into the perverse dynamic that is going on. And I do not think it is justifiable that anyone holds another person accountable for what happened to them at the hands of someone else but it’s only my mothers generation that the attitudes towards women were unjustifiably minimizing and that their freedoms were extremely limited without harsh societal consequences. So it’s still a bit of a fresh wound for a lot of women. And mothers passed their fears and angers onto their daughters.
I only think this is important to bring in to the dialogue for the men who are writing with such anger, and judgement towards women. Nobody here stands alone in beating treated poorly- not men or women. The goal to me is about creating more understanding of what is happening, treating people as individuals not just members of a “gender” group, and acting with integrity in whatever we think is the right thing to do. It just softens things a bit if you can have compassion for the people that you may otherwise be slinging arrows at.
