Manning Up or Wimping Out: Men Don’t Exist to Serve Women’s Desires
I think you’re right Scythe. You don’t need a masters degree to understand this dynamic- though I actually think that’s obvious. And sometimes psychology focuses so much on the individual that it does not take into account the larger social dynamics that contribute to, or even create, certain attitudes and values. So right again.
Having said that, I don’t spend a lot of time trolling the internet reading blogs. And truth be told men are not speaking about this dynamic to me. It was only when one of my male friends started discussing it that I started to ask around and look around more. Of course once I opened my eyes to it I saw that it was everywhere and that actually a lot of men are upset. Until then though I was ignorant because it’s hard to put yourself into someone else’s shoes or perceive realities that are so far removed from your own. You don’t even know to look for them.
Much like many of you can’t understand what it means to be a woman. You absolutely cannot know what it is like to grow up female in this country and what you have to navigate because of that. Maybe that’s why so many men in this response section have spouted out such angry, hate-filled ignorance about women.
If you look statistically almost 40% of women in this country have been victims of physical and/or sexual abuse, at the hands of men primarily. 15% of men have also been victims. Can you imagine how that twists someone to make them angry at men in general? But, how fair is that? Most men are not perpetrators and don’t deserve to be judged or mistreated because of the actions of another.
Well similarly, how can some of you attack all women as gold-digging whores who are trying to crush men’s spirits….?
While many of us may remain ignorant to men’s experience in this country, at least there are women on this site trying to understand what’s happening. But your gender are not just victims of the feminist revolution. This dynamic wasn’t created in a vacuum by women alone perpetrating something on men. It was co-created by ignorance, judgement, malevolence and egos. I’m just saying maybe it’s time to drop the attack and figure out something else.
