Manning Up or Wimping Out: Men Don’t Exist to Serve Women’s Desires
I can only speak for myself and my experience. My wife and I met in college. We were both older (non-traditional) students. We married while still in college. It was a financial struggle but we worked together, pooling our money and labors to get ahead. We started with almost nothing and today, almost 28 years later, we’ve built a good life together. During many of those years, her income was greater than mine but it didn’t matter because it was never a case of “her money” verses “my money.” We discuss things and come to agreement before making major decisions because we’re partners. She doesn’t work for me and I don’t work for her. We work for each other.
Now, my wife was born and raised in the Philippines and that may make a difference. I shutter to think of what might’ve happened had I married one of the American girls I dated before meeting my wife. When my wife got her US citizenship, she joked, “I used to do that for you but now that I’m an American woman, you can do it yourself!” She was just kidding.
The bottom line is that neither of us thinks we can get everything we want all of the time. That just isn’t realistic in any relationship between two people. Anyone who thinks otherwise is destined for a very rude awakening.
