Lea said:
“Would you guys like it if women ran around accusing all men of being just like their nasty ex-boyfriend/husband?”…
Bingo. That is exactly what most men face in the dating/marriage game on a daily basis; that chip on the shoulder mentality that I see come out in any discussion of this nature. The whole “boys are ugly, throw rocks at them” attitude mentioned in an earlier post. It has a great deal to do with so many men like “Jim” are so unsure of themselves in their dealings with women, and why there are so many confirmed batchelors out there…
Ranting about “it’s all your fault because of your poor choices” is like blaming a mugging victim for walking down the wrong street at the wrong time. A man takes a leap of faith due to love, and a negative outcome is all HIS fault??? Talk about having your cake and eating it too; slag us for being selfish, noncomittal, and shallow, and then second guess our choices if we commit and get the shaft… What colour IS the sky in YOUR world?
I honestly don’t know how you can keep running around this room without tripping over the queen-sized elephant parked in the middle of it. It stands out like the tacky marquee lights on a Vegas casino. Where did the cold, manipulative, downright nasty behaviour I and others see on a daily basis from so many (not all) women come from? Why does no one dare to call them to account for it? Why is it celebrated as “empowerment”?
If I reject you because you weigh more than I do, have no interests beyond celebs and reality television, and have personal hygeine issues, I am considered “shallow”. If you reject me because I don’t make enough money, have a big enough home, or don’t have a six-pack, you are being “smart”, “refuse to settle” or are “looking out for your best interests”… Funny how that double standard works…
From what I see, most men want to have a reasonable debate about what is wrong with gender interaction today, and to find solutions. Unfortunately, a large number of women prefer an echo chamber, and go “lalalalalala I can’t hear you…” when they don’t get it…
How did it come to this?
