Here’s an unsolicited piece of advice. It will work for young men as easily for the older bachelor who is at least testing the notion of pairing up. Eschew the company of women who seem interested in whether or not you are going to pair up – with them, with their daughter, with their friend. Encouraging these women to orbit in your social space will effectively blind you to the existence of women who are otherwise. Go, instead, where women go who have no interest in making men do what they would not. Younger? Go to the library or the animal shelter. Older? Go to the botanical gardens or a prayer service. Find something that doesn’t bore you horribly that attracts women of your age to come and do something (not stand around with drinks). Gradually get to know these retiring individuals. You may find a life’s partner, or maybe just a bridge partner. Either way, you’re richer.
