I’ve never been particularly bothered by men who choose to remain single, assuming that they’ve either had childhoods within bad marriages, or had bad marriages themselves. Sometimes I think I might like to set them up, but that’s largely a maternal thing that I almost always dismiss as a meddlesome idea.
However, I have to say, single men who become pals with married men are a real problem to wives. I’m in a situation now where my own husband of forty years has taken it into his head that forty years is a “long time” and maybe “enough”. At first I thought it was because he was attracted to another woman (of my age), and maybe that was part of it, but I’m beginning to suspect that the real crux of this “life crisis” stems from his friendship with a younger, unmarried man who still carries on a footloose lifestyle. Not to say that boredom couldn’t be a problem, and certainly we’ve had our marital ups and downs as everyone does, but I can’t help feeling this “friend” is fanning the fires.
