Elizabeth, the problem is that there are not enough financial resources for women like you and men like your husband to marry to have even replacement kids.
Stalin said quantity has it’s own quality — your child will be vastly outnumbered by Hispanics from Mexico and Mormons, since their children will be the only ones showing up for the future. In that future, THEY will be the discriminated against minority, with little power over their destiny.
Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice has an aside where Elizabeth Bennett comments on how her youngest sister Lydia at 15 was briefly considered for marriage, but discarded by the suitor because of her immaturity. Motherhood is no job for either slackers or immature girls, but the usual way in which humans reproduced was with young women expected and demanded to act maturely.
In most of human history, including that of the West, young women by their mid to late teens (and young men also) were expected to be and act as adults, not live endless adolescent lives into their thirties. Young women married at 17-19 or so (Elizabeth Bennett’s friend Charlotte Lucas was considered and old maid at 27), often to men in their early to mid 20′s. [I have heard it said the a woman's peak fertility is around 17-23, if so Western society has major problems.]
Children should not be sexualized. But teens ought to be treated like adults and expected to act as adults. With an adults understanding of sexuality, it’s value, and responsibilities. If a young woman wants to get married and have kids at 19, it should be socially encouraged if the match is good, and society should help her continue on with her career and studies, since woman’s ability to add to the workforce is important and should be valued. There is no reason at all why women should not receive social security for child care, and get assistance to go back to school and careers after time out for child care. This would get our TFR up to at least replacement rates.
Halving populations every generation of the most productive and native parts of Europe and the Anglophone nations is not a pretty future.
