Lea wonders why there is so much anger at women under the surface in this thread. It is simple – the system so obviously priveleges women both as victims and perpetrators.
Thank you. I guess the anger is what keeps drawing me out. I find it worrisome.
I’m also a bit surprised to hear myself defined as ‘callous’. Mary and I do not share the same opinion. I clearly think a Rape occured to the gentlemen in question. And I really do feel sympathy for these men, but I also feel alarm, not at them, but at the way women like the one in the story seem to have turned some men against women. I remember listening to a conversation between two (male) co-workers around the time of the Kobe Bryant trial. It was pretty much assumed that she was crying rape, because apparently women lie about this stuff all the time. Now, maybe she did lie, I have no idea. But the fact is that Kobe got off. The Duke boys got off (thankfully, of course, since they were innocent). But there is so clearly a huge amount of fear in the male population of being falsely accused that I’m worried about the backlash and this board is a good example of that.
As I said earlier, rape is already hard to prove. Women (or as someone said earlier ‘all sane people’) are clearly reluctant to report it and so many people get off scott free. Apparently, men are afraid to report it as well, but we seem to be left thinking everybody who reports it is a liar. That is a concern. We should look at each case with new, just eyes.
Most women could fight off their rapists as well.
I wouldn’t go nearly so far as most. I have seen some literature that some date-rapes could be prevented by struggling more, because some attackers may just decide it’s not worth the trouble. (this actually happened to a friend of mine. She fought the guy off for 3 hours and he finally gave up). The thing is, even scrawny, scrawny men are awfully strong compared to most women. And when a woman decides to struggle, she has to make a decision as to whether this will make it better and get her away, or make it worse and anger the man. And this may be hard to tell. This is not really the situation most full grown men are in. It seems they are more likely to be incapacitated by alcohol or drugs.
