Sioux Lady – I’m sure you’ll get lots of further responses on this, but the answer’s yes. I’m not sure whether James ever used the phrasing that he was ‘terrorized’ into an erection – it seems as though he’d got that way prior to waking up.
However (and there’s always one) – maintaining an erection in a stressful/inappropriate situation, when you’re 19, really, really isn’t difficult.
My specific question to you, is whether you believe that hypothetically – discounting James’ story as an utter fabrication – would this have constituted a criminal act … which brings me to Lea …
… who believes that what happened to James wasn’t rape, but was ‘something else, not something good, just something else’.
Everyone gets it. The issue arose earlier in the thread. Someone commented that it seemed that a number of the (apparent) women who have commented seemed to want to reserve ‘rape’for their exclusive use. I was dismissive at the start, but what I’ve seen since does support that observation.
Incidentally, to use a prior analogy again, Lea, let’s bid the issue down. Your boss hauls you into a closet and molests you. You’re sexually assaulted for 10 minutes or so. You get out, and you tell a male co-worker what happened, and what’s your reaction when he says ‘Oh really, I’m sure everyone can agree that sucks’.
The odd thing is that you seem to be of the opinion that James was initially raped, but what happened afterwards was something ‘lesser’. So what? “I know I raped her, but after a while, she seemed to be enjoying it so I bought her a box of candy and booked some tickets for us to go see “Mama Mia”?
It doesn’t SUCK Lea, PMS *SUCKS*, Premature Ejaculation *SUCKS*, not finding a parking space *SUCKS*. Being sexually assaulted does not *SUCK*. Rape’s rape. It’s a crime.
When you have been the victim of a crime, you are … well … you’re a VICTIM. When victims are doubted, and then grudgingly told that they might actually be telling the truth, but are then brushed off and told to suck it up, or ‘be a man’.
