Dr. Helen wrote: “Who are you to decide that no psychological damage has been done?”
I’m a male. Perhaps it gives me insight that you do not have. If you want what appears to be the textbook reason for the difference look to the comment above from JA – it sounds about right. God knows how much effort (and money) somebody wasted to come up with the “textbook” explanation, when the average joe could have given you the answer (though without some of the nuance) without much effort. I reminds me the recent breakthrough discovery that watching women running in bikini’s alters men’s thought processes.
I think that about 90% of men who heard the story he described would have grinned and told him “holy sh_t, excellent story” or “lucky for you”. James can probably corroborate me on that. That is not because we are mean or callous, but because we cannot conceive that coerced heterosexual sex under the circumstances he described could cause lasting harm.
You and Jim do not like that. But, that is the way it is. Men are different and they do not presume an eggshell-like fragility in the psyche of other males. Is that a bad thing? Perhaps there is some greater societal wisdom in it.
