I do not think men can really be harmed by non-violent rape and I do not think what he went though consituted violence. It is very different for women. Men are designed for quick action and are much more comfortable with sex as simply a physical act. I do not think that healthy men can feel “violated” by it under the described circumstances, whether is is consented to or not.
That’s because you hang out with men who are controlled by their penises. Most of the men I associate with would not be happy to find themselves in that situation because their religion teaches them to wait until marriage before having sex. No healthy man would be happy waking up to a woman that he is not attracted to not only using him like a flesh and blood dildo, but very clearly, like a predator, making it known to him that if he objected that she would accuse him of one of the most serious felonies there is.
