SarahW and Aronamos and a few others:
I assure you as I type this response and my hands shake with rage – I was indeed raped. This is not fiction. This is not funny. This is not your experience to childishly dismiss. Penthouse? Hustler? Really? Wow this thread is full of children.
NyNick:
She did have a ride home. As I mentioned above, he DISAPPEARED – most likely with someone else to have a good time on their own. What woman would be in a club at 6 months pregnant? Gee, I don’t know. Hit some clubs and you’ll easily find a few. As my own experience suggests, she is not a “typical” woman, but any stretch of the imagination.
For some of the other posters:
It is not something I need to “get over” or “suck up” or “man up” about.
Having spent 15 years next to a rape survivor (part of why I ignored my own rape – I couldn’t support her in the manner she deserved while dealing with my own), I have daily experience with this matter. Do any of you know what it is like to wake up next to a woman screaming in her sleep, fighting an invisible attacker or attempting to strangle you in your sleep as she is unable to wake out of the nightmare and can’t see you as her husband? How many of you are man enough to deal with that for YEARS ON END???? Not likely many of you.
Gee, I wonder why I took so long to deal with my own shit…
Anyone here at all?
It is not cute, funny, or laughable. It is painful, disgusting and at times – shameful to think about.
Ignoring it and suppressing it for so long hasn’t worked – even though I needed to be there for someone else while she gained her strength – something a real man would do. I’m working through this with an experienced rape counselor and I will be fine on the other end of this.
I am doing what a real man does – facing it. I am not doing what a insescure, cowardly little man-child does – pretending, deluding, ignoring and self-destructing.
Since when did denial and self-delusion become manly traits? Since when did hurting a pregnant woman and her child become acceptable behavior for a man?
When? When? When?
A real man (not an immature little wimp of a man-child like some of these posters) knows when he needs help rather than bottling it up until it explodes onto some innocent bystander. Anyone volunteering to be that bystander for me? Anyone? Anyone at all?
But thanks to so many people for revealing their general lack of humanity and total immaturity. Glad to see that victim-blaming and childish behavior know no gender.
Snoop (use your real name like a real man would):
I was a 19 year old Marine. Do you know how much that the Corps paid to an E-3 back in the day? Do you think the woman was wealthy or something? We split the cost, because we were both living on limited means. This was the semi-monthly night out and I planned for Further, why would I ever, in a million years have expected that a pregnant woman would do this to me? Are you f*cking psychic??????
Trust you on this? You weren’t there. You are talking out of your ass in order to make excuses for a rapist.
celebrim:
There is nothing “problimatic” about what happened to me other than that I was raped for helping out a friend of a friend. It is just that simple.
This will be my one and only posting in this ridiculous thread as I’m too pissed off to be civil any longer. All I hope is that another man reads my story, ignores the hate and immaturity of so many of these posters and seeks help earlier. I would have much rather gotten through this when I was 19, but I didn’t have that luxury as I left for the Gulf War a few months afterward and was then POS’d to a new duty station and married soon after that to a woman who had more than enough baggage for both of us. Life got in the way of “getting over it.”
Live through it first yourself and then tell me how to deal…
