Domestic Violence Fairytales Threaten Constitutional Protections
My ex made false allegations against all 4 of her husbands, any boyfriend she was pissed at, including 2 fiances, a doctor, her brothers, and her father. She’s impersonated a US Marshall and was indicted on a felony, only to be let go by a (woman) prosecutor that thinks “it’s not a real crime” to identify one’s self as a law enforcement officer and threaten to arrest someone. (This same prosecutor is in the running to be a judge, now, so imagine how impartial she’ll be when she’s on the bench.) She’s been caught fabricating evidence of abuse and harassment by the police, has over 80 police calls in 4 years, and nothing is done about it. Well, to her, anyway. They’ll do plenty to people she’s mad at.
The first time your partner/spouse hits you, get out. Don’t screw around, don’t go back and forth, and don’t threaten a divorce. Just do it. Warning her will only get her in touch with a lawyer, who WILL advise her to get you arrested to improve her outcome. If she’s abusive, crazy, controlling, get the hell out. Unless you’re bleeding, or have an unimpeachable witness, don’t call the cops, because they’ll be happy to stuff you in the car the moment she sheds a tear. They will NOT ask your side of the story, and will happily put in the police report that “defendant admitted that he assaulted the complaintant”, just to make the arraignment process go smoother. If they do take you seriously, they don’t want to do the paperwork, and will spend the rest of the evening trying to humiliate you and provoking you into doing something they CAN arrest you for, because you’re wasting their time. The city and the county receive federal money to lock men up and prosecute them. It’s a huge conflict of interest, but have fun proving it.
On the odd chance that she is arrested and charged, don’t back down. When Victims’ Services does contact you, and they resolve their confusion about you being the victim, don’t let them get off the phone without getting a protective order, or you’ll have you-know-who on your porch begging to make up. The “make up” will last long enough for you to drop the charges, and then you’ll find yourself with the title of “defendant” when she decides to “show YOU what it’s like”.
Domestic violence is a cash cow, and YOU are the bogey man that politicians of all stripes love to slay for their admiring public. No politician wants to be seen as “soft” on domestic violence, so trust me, they all have a hard-on for putting men in jail, facts be damned.
