SeattleMan:
If a man doesn’t want to have children, he has a lot of options. He can get a vasectomy. He can use a condom. He can keep his pants zipped! It’s his body and his choice. Men have a lot of input and control over whether women have their babies. 99.999% of women who have babies have them after men have sex with them. 99.999% of those men had sex willingly. 90% or so of the sex acts were initiated by men.
Men put a lot of pressure on women to have sex with them. Men make huge efforts developing “game”. Men seek out women who are vulnerable – the very young, for instance. Men threaten and manipulate women. Men drug women. Men rape women.
Male irresponsibility is not the sole cause, but it is a very large part of it. Custodial parenthood is a huge burden – physical, emotional, financial. Women who are raising children deserve the support of the fathers of those children – preferably in the context of marriage. If men evade marriage, they should still contribute. And not just with some t-shirts and gymshoes when they feel like it.
