Dear Mary;
Can’t be too long; am on the clock here after all – I should be doing some work for my pay. But…
ARE YOU NUTS?
Sorry. Had to shout there a bit. But seriously.
ARE YOU INSANE?
http://www.sptimes.com/2008/02/26/Pasco/Author_tells_of_her_j.shtml
lthough Eden wrote the book with women in mind, she found many young adult men appreciate her message.
“Something I discovered when I began speaking to young adult groups and on college campuses is that men want something higher to be asked of them. They want to discipline their bodies for something higher.”
http://www.rollingstone.com/news/story/7418688/the_young__the_sexless
You’ll forgive me for not excerpting from from this article; everyone should just go read it. Although, you know, some of its kinda on the wild and wooly side.
If you’re just wondering why only Father/Daughter balls are big, that’s just marketing, blast it.
Speaking as a Christian, an evangelical, and a GUY, I find chastity until marriage of high importance. I look down on men who sleep around; you will not find a single (and I realise this sounds like the No True Scotsman, but!) real Christian, male or female, who regards highly any ‘stud’ or ‘playa’ BECAUSE of his promiscuity. But more importantly, you will NEVER find a real Christian father ENCOURAGING his son(s) to go sow his wild oats. NEVER! Jeez, do we actually have to make this plain and clear?
Here’s the thing you’re missing, though, Mary. Guys, as a whole, aren’t really into the ‘ball’ thing. The dressing up, the corsage, the limo, the stately ‘ballroom’ dances – these are all things men do for ONLY one reason – to court potential ‘mates’, so to speak. To make the womenfolk happy, in other words.
The ball experience is something like the debutante experience, which is a ‘coming of age’ event for the young women in question. Do guys have a similar group experience, showing themselves off to a bunch of horny gals who can hardly wait to get into their pants? Aside from a male stripper bar, I really can’t think of anything.
By and large, the way it works with men is on a less emotional, less ‘showy’ level. A guy will, maybe while working on the transmission with his son, ask him quietly, “Do you know how?” And when the son says, equally quietly, “Yes”, the father will conclude, “Then don’t. Not until you’re married.” That’s it. Simple. Alternatively, the mother might sit her boy down and ask him to treat other young women like he would like his sister to be treated.
And then, of course, there’s the redneck version, where the father of the young woman lays down the ‘Shotgun Laws’.
In none of these cases is it ever a showy display. I’m sorry, Mary, but you’re barking up the wrong tree because you cannot fathom the fundamental differences between young women and young men. The principles are the same for both, but they’re expressed differently.
