rufus:
I am completely confound and appalled that listing you are raising your children yourself is a negative on a profile!
I am a woman, and I cannot imagine a more upstanding or responsible act; not to mention loving.
And any woman, childless or with, that thinks a child in distress should NOT come home if remotely feasible is…is…oh, a horrid enough word just won’t come to mind!
You children are your LIFE, they are your focus, and if they need you that is WHAT YOU DO- it’s called being a parent.
I made it clear when I divorced the first time that it was a package deal, me and my children; AND, I made it clear that my children’s best interests would always take precedence- even over MY wants and needs if required- as being a parent was my first job and my deepest commitment, and if they couldn’t agree to that completely to just walk away now.
Sadly, I have discovered that men are more than capable of putting up a front and feigning the commitment and involvement for quite some years IF they think it will get them what they REALLY want- or if they think what you are saying is not REALLY how it will shake out.
And then they resent YOU for not making THEM the first and ONLY priority in your life! Hello?
I see no reason to subject myself to the whole relationship/marriage issue; just too distrusting of men at this point, and don’t expect them to be real and honest vs playing to get what they want from you.
