I’m a but late coming on board – no, I don’t think you should tell her her adoption was cheaper. To what purpose? She’ll learn soon enough the issues surrounding mixed kids. But, for the purposes of school as she gets older, she will be considered black. And, once she gets to high school, she will be forced to choose who she hangs out with…. that is a reality of life.
Why tell her as a child, she had less value because she was black or mixed? When she gets older and her self image is set, and she knows the way of the world, then go ahead – no reason to hide it. But, by that time, it probably won’t matter to her that she was a blue-light special.
I know what I’m talking about – I have 7 adopted children, 5 of which are bi-racial. And ALL of whom were special needs kids. Hard to place kids. And, all from the U.S. There are plenty of them here, or hadn’t you noticed?
So, keep your outrage and use it to not only teach her to be a person first, not someone who is bi-racial, but also a self-reliant young woman, and to be proud of who she is, regardless of color.
