I never respond in comments, but this article has stayed with me since I read it.
A reasonable case can be made that the fee structure is not a reflection of racism. It is not racist for white parents to prefer to adopt white children. Why shouldn’t they want to adopt children who look more like them? It is not racist for adoption agencies, faced with more minority children who are harder to place (Do more minority parents put their children up for adoption? Do fewer minority parents adopt?), encourage their adoption by adjusting the fee structure. It is not racist for people who desperately want to love a child to also consider the economic costs associated with bringing that child into the family.
Perhaps I am wrong. Just too simplistic. Not perceptive enough to see the racism. Perhaps both of our views are reasonable. That is something we could debate long into the night.
But what does it say about you, Ms. Friedman, that you would choose to tell your beloved daughter the version that might damage her self-worth? If you believe that your daughter already faces an uphill battle in a racist world, why would you pile on?
