I disagree. I don’t think your daughter gains anything positive from this knowledge, particularly since it is no longer the practice. If she ask these questions specifically, certainly you don’t lie. You find a gentle way to help her understand but it’s not something I would bring up, even if as you say it’s part of the story. It can be a part she can be blissfully unaware of and if it was brought up by her, I would go out of my way to minimize that particular aspect.
And I don’t understand the title. The Brutal Reality of Interracial Adoption??
If black babies are or have been ‘on sale for less’ than white babies, what does this have to do with interracial adoption?
I am making the assumption here that you are white and from your story, your daughter bi-racial but wouldn’t the fee have been the same if she had been adopted by black parents rather than white? Wouldn’t the fee have been the same for her if both her biological parents had been black and she was being adopted by a black family?
For that matter, why is the reality of circumstances of an interracial adoption any more brutal than the reality of any other adoption? Each adoption would seem to me to have brutal realities behind it or an adoption would not be taking place.
I think focusing on those aspects rather than how lucky you and your daughter are to have become a family could undermine her perception of her family. Give her the impression that it is 2nd to the best kind of family to have. That she is worth less. That you ‘bought’ less. Is that what you want?
