What’s the “appropriate age”? If you wait until she’s 30, fine. If you want to tell her at 13, forget it.
It seems like an odd thing to focus on – with all the problems in the world, why this one? With all the racism that abounds, why this particular one?
There’s something troubling me about this and I can’t quite put my finger on it. Your need to tell her bothers me. We can frame things in many ways. Of all the things to focus on surrounding her adoption, focusing on this aspect bothers me.
I think I know what it is: you seem to be confusing adoption with buying. You didn’t buy a human being when you adopted your daughter. You paid a fee for the privilege of adopting your child.
Question to ask yourself, maybe – suppose the fees and availability of sexes and ethnicities were equal. Would you have adopted the same child, or a different one?
