I do not think the problem is limited to women, per se, but rather to certain people in general. I definitely agree whih those who have opined that if you want your marriage to last you need to find someone who is committed to the marriage- not what they can “get” out of it.
You have to give in order to get- at least that’s what I used to think. I am a 33 year old, college educated person with a decent salary. When my spouse went through law school, and the subsequent job search that followed, we lived on my income alone. I even agreed to give up my job and home and move away from all of my friends and family so that they could attend the school they wanted. I did all of this, sacrificing my own chance to go to graduate school. During our marriage this person has spent us into near poverty (expensive designer clothes, vacations, new car, etc.), been unfaithful, said and done some of the most unimaginably mean and hurtful things, has ALWAYS put themself first, and continually blames me for the things they lack. (Now they are saying that I don’t make enough money for them to afford the kind of lifestyle they want.) I live under constant threats of divorce and outbursts such as, “I’m not letting you have anything but what you came into the marriage with. You can’t have any of it; you’re not getting anything.” I don’t NEED any of this material crap, and I am coming to the conclusion that don’t need HIM either. Guess what? That’s right! I am a WOMAN. The person behaving like a entitled diva is a MAN.
Not all women are selfish, gold-digging whores. Nor are all men are ethical, hardworking, and loyal.
