As a child of divorce, I am continually saddened to see marriages crumble, for whatever reason. Men can be assholes, women can be bitches, and both can be something less. Ultimately, while it takes two to have a marriage, it only takes one to wreck it. Neither men nor women have a corner on that market.
Even as a happily married man, I see the seeds of marital destruction in myself. If I nurture those things that lead me away from faithfulness to my wife, I could end up like my own father, having my wife leave me. My wife could just up and leave me through no fault of mine, just like it happened to a friend a few months ago.
This society needs successful marriages. Kids need to see that lifelong love and commitment are possible, even if it takes hard work. If you are divorced, be careful to keep becoming the best person you can be, for yourself, not just for someone else. Find others who are striving to do the same, and marry them.
Please take this as from someone who still bears the scars of his parents’ divorce 30 years later. It’s not about guilt, but about change (not the Obama kind). Let the adult children get healed before they wreck any more lives, and find those who have made it through bruised but better.
