@ Isabel:
They don’t hang out in church? Please expound.
None of my classifications for what real men that I would want to spend time with do, are exclusive. Most religious guys I know don’t get divorced because they find strength in their religion that allows them to stick out the marriage from hell. (Also their wife is generally religious and they are either happily married or miserable together). You might occasionally meet a good divorced man who is religious BUT most of my experience with good plain intelligent unpretentious men is that they are generally agnostic or atheist. They realize that no one gets off this earth alive and they are not sacrificing their life here on earth for some promise of eternal reward or fear of the all mighty. They live their lives for the people they care about and principles they feel strongly about.
