I am a woman, married 27 years yesterday who is geographically separated from her husband by 9000 miles and likely to remain so for the next year or more. Prior to my husband’s departure I met a divorced man through my participation in a male dominated sport. This guy is intelligent, kind, helpful, good looking, responsible, witty, a wonderful friend and exactly the kind of person that I would be looking for if I was ever in the market again. He has been divorced for nine years. I suspect we get along well because we have a mutual interest, our children are all grown, I have no baggage or a hidden agenda, and I try to give more than I get. Most real men in their 40′s and beyond are not looking for sex toys. Most of these desirable divorced men are Republicans, who do not style their hair, wear cologne, hang out in bars or in church, and they do not watch chick flicks. They are not in debt. They hunt, fish, shoot, run, bicycle, bowl, play tennis and golf and are more likely to eat at Burger King than a sushi bar. They are looking for a woman to share some of their interests, and first and foremost a woman who is not looking for a meal ticket. If you can tell that I truly despise a good number of my own sex you would be right. My father is law and brother in law have both been married to dependant women and it has not worked out well. For independent people the time to be married is when your children need a two parent family . After that it should be because you are still best friends or not at all. Isabel
