RodgerS seems to know the same women I do. Ditto on all that, Rodger. I’ve known so many women who simply refuse to be happy. The think happiness will come from snagging The One, who must, just MUST be Perfect. It’s a very human trait, unfortunately.
Kudos to Heather, too. I know quite a few divorced women, and very few of them appear to be “better off” than their ex-husbands. Far from trying to keep the kids away from their father, they often have to beg and plead with their ex-es to actually take a break from the new girlfriend and actually spend some time with their children (actually, when the guy does get a new g/f, he often suddenly reverts temporarily to being “good father,” using the kids to impress the new girl). They also have to clamp down hard on their own feelings about the ex and reassure the children that yes, daddy really does love them even though he promised to take them to the zoo on Saturday but then never showed up.
In reality, in my experience, neither party to a divorce is as good and flawless as they think themselves to be nor as evil and rotten as the other person thinks them to be. Where there really is a jerk on one side and a victim on the other, sometimes it’s the man that’s the jerk, and sometime’s its the woman. Neither gender has a monopoly on either virtue or vice.
P.S. Heather, at least a few of us are absolutely looking for self-sufficient women; I can’t stand women who intend to depend entirely on me to make every major and most minor decisions in life. Tell me what you think, I’ll tell you what I think, and then we’ll hash it out together. I don’t want the burden and the hassle of deciding what’s in your best interests without any input from you.
