leishman
2008-05-15 13:02:31
I’m a guy, twice divorced (9- year and twenty-year marriages), four grown kids by my second marriage, in a non-cohabiting exclusive and deeply satisfying relationship with a delightful lady with two teen-aged kids, for about six years. She was four-years’ divorced and in a shared custody situation when we met. We have no plans ever to get married, but our ideal is to share a duplex some day! Once one lets go of the “end-point” of marriage it’s much easier to be patient with each other’s growth experiences and transitional times. Patience also pays off with each other’s kids–it took about four years for her kids to decide I was tolerably OK, and my adult kids are (slowly) coming around as well.
