Eh…bear the cruel cold facts in mind, here. A single woman in her mid to late 40s has a far smaller chance of remarrying than a man in his mid to late 40s. Most divorced men in their 40s who want to remarry will do so fairly quickly, often to younger women. Not true for the women. They may very well find plenty of dates among men who have no intention at all of ever marrying, but if they want to “settle down” they are in general going to have a rough time, much rougher than the men.
Thus, the books. They are more or less a feel-good drug, a dose of wishful fantasy power which makes you feel happier while you’re adjusting to some painful biological realities, which is that a woman in her late 40s is in many ways past her sell-by date, while a man in his late 40s is often still hot.
Arguably there’s also a generational issue. The present generation of women in their 40s and 50s seem to be the most deluded about reality, possibly because they were so strongly exposed to the theoretical musings of the initial feminist movement, uninformed about empirical reality. Earlier generations didn’t receive the indoctrination, and later generations have had bitter experience to temper how much of the Kool-Aid they swallow.
