Monty’s comments are right on as far as I am concerned. Roger L Simon still has his head in the sand: his common sense approach resulted in two divorces, so how is that working?
In my situation things that have occurred in my relationships are closely defined in the authors comments. First, in the dating process, no matter what age, an average to attractive and beyond woman are very stand-offish. They know they will be sought after and therefore are ‘too good’ for the average guy who would love them to death and provide for them and their children from other guys. An average guy who breaks into this kind of womans world will walk a tight rope and be expected to support this woman emotionally (and financially) but not show any assertive behavior toward her or her children. Conversely, a woman with her kids merging into a relationship with a guy who has his kids fully expects to be able to use assertive behavior on the guy and on the guys kids. Should the guy be dumb enough to point this double-standard out, he will be dividing the ‘family’ assets 50-50 or more than likely 80-20 very soon. She either gets her way or whenever her kids are raised and gone, she is gone, whichever comes first. From what I have seen, a guy has very little chance of success and/or happiness after a divorce from their initial marriage. Maybe that’s why the good book says divorce is not a good thing! A divorced woman knows she will be sought after no matter what after divorces because men have a natural tendancy to want a woman. A woman will remain divorced unless she absolutely gets exactly the kind of guy she wants, and that is not an average joe. She knows she can stay divorced and have dates that will treat her to a life of full-attention and luxury. There are guys lines up waiting to do so.
The bottom line to me is a guy is at a tremendous disadvantage (screwed) when looking for a 50-50 or 100-100 type relationship. I have heard those type relationships exist but I have never witnessed one.
It is sad to agree with the author, but to even out the playing field a guy would have to date, lie, and agree to anything, to get what he wants, and then run like heck.
Sound like how things are?
