I’m a divorced man in a serious/exclusive relationship with a divorced woman for a year now. Like Simon, I found it was better to see both sexes as human beings and go from there. Most of the “assumptions” about men and women seem invalid and convenient.
For example, I met a lot of divorced women who were terrible listeners with poor communication skills, a trait supposedly exclusive to men.
When I attended seminars for singles, I was also astounded how both men and women, despite having their questions answers, seemed to ignore the inconvenient and politically incorrect answers. For example, many obese woman refused to lose weight and complained about why there were no perfect men who had the x-ray vision to see their beautiful inner selves. Many men, with control issues, like their having the need to make the first phone call, could not loosen up.
Both men and women often had a giggles naivety when meeting someone at a dance. Men could not imagine why women would sometimes give out a wrong phone number and women could not imagine why men would sometimes not make the Call…..Well, could it be that one of them wasn’t ready to date or had another agenda? After all, many people are simply not willing to be direct and say No or be transparent at the drink/dance/chat level.
And how about the “ladies” who would talk about the need to date carefully/take your time, then calls you up to tell you about how she has just fallen in love, overnight, rolled her heels the first night out…. then…. 3 months later she up and calls you how lousy the guy really was (I supposed once she got around to talking with him), and lets go to dinner and dancing as friends (buddies). Smiles, giggles. Sorry, my calendar is filled.
Remember, Simon says…use common sense and don’t make assumptions. Thumbs Up!!!
