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Dear Azoreano,
Thank you so much for your kind sentiments. Unfortunately, I do not see my ex-husband as a sad creature … but simply a sad representation of the incipient programming that most of society has experienced from at least post-WWII to the present. My ex-husband’s father loved Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin and Sammy David Junior and the “Rat Pack’s” mentality of booze, enless partying, loose women, song and no responsibility. From this mentality (in part), spawned the mindset of the father, who then projected this mindset onto his son … “Live your life like there are no hooks up your a$$” is what he said to my now ex-husband on the evening of of marriage. That was my ex-father-in-law’s blessing to my ex-husband.
I suggest to you men out there who are not married – to not partake in an endless stream of bed mates before you do in fact settle down. Please, somehow, revitalise the idea of your looking for respectable women. Like my friends from the Muslim, Hindu and Sikh communities (and African Christian communities), search out your potential spouse’s family and check out the dynamics in that family. Find out the character of the people from whom a potential mate is descended. Like generally begets like. Gosh, I wish that I had figured this out when I was 18 years of age. But then again, at that time, no man would have me. Very intelligent, pretty and fit and church-going, I was a turn off for the contemporary men of the time. Thirty or so years later, my positive qualities are still a turn off – or at least an anomaly for men out there in the singles world. There are many women who are smart, good and moral people who will very likely never reproduce – because their virtues “turn off” the men who they meet.
It would be very uplifting to think that positive qualities in a female or a male – were once again considered virtues – not qualities to be laughed at and thought of as old-fashioned.
Gentlemen – I would also ask you to consider the fact that society seems to have been engineered to manifest from women staying at home and taking care of the husband, home and babies (remeber our parents or grandparetns “making it” and prospering quite very well on ONE INCOME? Well, with one income in the household, there is only one source of income tax. With women being co-opted into working … commencing in the 1940′s with “Rosie the Welder” (as WWII female “stand ins” to traditional male jobs while the boys were away at war) and thereafter with Germain Greer’s assertions and then Gloria Steinem’s Communistic diatribes et al, real wages declined and it now takes two incomes to barely “make it”. But now two-parent homes have the male and female both contributing to Federal and Provincial coffers through Income Tax.
God bless all of you men out there.
