steven
2009-08-24 07:22:42
As usual, Mr Solway is right on the money, and eloquent to boot.
The need to view the world as one wishes it were rather than the way it is is grounded in the inherent inner-conflict between being true to self vs. needing/desiring to fit in, originally with family, ultimately with one’s society. This is a universal Gordian knot. Those who choose fitting in — being liked — are neurotic; those who choose self-interest are narcissistic.
The cure is, as usual, balance between the two extremes. Balance requires both seeing the motives of those around us for what they are, on the one hand, and recognizing and acknowledging one’s own intentions, both creative and destructive, on the other.
