Ask Dr. Helen: Do Husbands Owe Wives Post-Childbirth ‘Push Presents?’
Why is everyone so riled up about this of a sudden? Must be the “new,” offensive name. My mother got one from my father when I was born in 1966, and while I doubt it was called a “push present,” the idea was the same. And yes, I received one from my husband. My mother treasures hers, and I treasure mine.
Did I expect one? Well. My husband and I mark joyous occasions with a gift – small or large, depending – our wedding, our milestone anniversaries and birthdays, etc. What could be more joyous, or more significant, than giving birth to a child? If the words “thank you” are appropriate, a gift isn’t inappropriate, don’t you think?
One day my daughter will wear the earrings her father gave me the day she was born. I hope she appreciates that, and understands the joy with which they were given and received.
